“Not a lot of guys are interested in women with kids, you know.” Interested in getting to know someone on a second date?
“My ex has a lot of issues so I really want to get married so my daughter has a new mom.” 12.
I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.
It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “My mom was a single mom most of my childhood, so I have tons of respect for single mothers.
“When guys marry single moms and their daughters grow into teenagers, I don’t know how they can control themselves.” 11.
If she prefers not to go out when her kids are home, or doesn’t like to hire a babysitter on school nights, she’ll tell you. If you’re out and she is paying for a sitter it is really nice if you get the check. Which you may be – but if you ask too fast, she will know. Yes, moms are really efficient and they’re used to doing a lot of cooking and cleaning. But if a single mom invites you over for dinner — whether a romantic evening for two, or with her kids — she had to clean up a whole lot of Legos and finger paint and string cheese wrappers, and wrangles in an extra trip to the market and wine store to make it happen. Dennis Rainey, President, Family Life "In Dating and the Single Parent, Ron Deal points out the common pitfalls and gives wise counsel in how to navigate the waters.I highly recommend it."--Gary Chapman, Ph D, author, The Five Love Languages"You can trust Ron Deal to shoot straight with you about kids, dating, and finding lasting love."--Dr.